Incest

I am blessed by the fact that my desires are for adult women who aren't in my family. I put the heading 'Incest' not because I am into that, but because I want to tell you where the natural boundaries are for my desire. If I force myself for one moment to think of the concept of incest, I feel genuinely nauseous. It's not just that I don't have those temptations, but that such thoughts are repulsive.

My revulsion goes even beyond that. My son is married to a stunningly beautiful young woman in her 30s - Let's call her Michelle. One of my lovers is considerably younger than her, but I have never had the slightest lustful though in Michelle's direction. She is family. When my children were in their late teens and their young women friends came to the house, I never had lustful thoughts about them either.

It seems that I have natural boundaries. These boundaries aren't constructed consciously. They are just there. It puzzles me why some people have such boundaries and others don't. It puzzles me, too, why even those with boundaries might have them drawn differently. For a number of years I have been having sex with women who are as old as or even younger than my children, but if they were my children's friends, I just couldn't do it. My psyche mystifies me, because I have had affairs with three women who had been friends with my wife. If they had been friends of my children, it would have been taboo.

Where are your boundaries? Would you consider sex with your son or daughter's spouse? If you are younger would you consider sex with your partner's mother, father, brother or sister? If you have a son or daughter, would you like to make it with one of their friends? Why not contribute to the blog and tell us all.