Sex and Spirituality

When I went to church with Norma in my 20s and was beset with guilt about my proclivities, part of the guilt was because that I had come to believe that there was a spiritual dimension to intercourse – that it joined a man and woman together not just bodily but spiritually as well. They became one and consequently it was a violation of that oneness if one had sex with someone else.

I wrote in one of my earliest postings that it took me years to accept myself as I am and be comfortable with what might be described as a promiscuous or adulterous life-style. However, in a strange way, I feel that there is something in the Christian view that sex is more than a bodily act. When I make love, I feel incredibly close emotionally and spiritually to the woman, even if I don’t know her name. I pick up her feelings and have a wonderful empathy of spirit. This dimension is exquisitely beautiful much of the time.

Now, rather than violating my unity with Norma, when I sleep with another woman, I am simply becoming incredibly close to another human being. That can only be a good thing. Maybe the old 1960s catch phrase ‘make love not war’ has something to it.